1. Turn on ”compassion”
Do not see other people as above you or beneath you. We are all human, with our own issues, insecurities and wounds.
2. Know you are good enough to serve
We need the skills to create impact on others. However, we are always good enough to serve and help other people by trying our best to listen, to understand and to comfort. We are all capable of doing that. When we pair our skill with the best intention, we are super powered.
3. When serving & loving, put all your energy on others
If you really put all your energy in understanding others need and trying your best to make the others happy, you are not in a needy space. So you don’t even have time to worry if you are good enough or not. You will just be happy that you could help and contribute. It is both empowering and humbling.
4. Serve and love without expectation
When you serve and love with no string attached, you give people freedom to appreciate you. And suddenly your happiness is not dependent on other’s feedback and validating. Do not push your service or love to others. If you push, then you are putting your needs above the other’s need.
5. Feel free to stop giving when it doesn’t serve yourself
You are the one deciding when/if you have the capacity to give, and when/if you need to take care of yourself first. You are also the one deciding who is in the best position to receive your love and service. You can decide that based on what feels right.
6. Treat yourself with the same respect as you treat others
The way you treat yourself will give ideas to other people how you would like to be treated, served and loved. Make a habit of treating yourself regularly in few ways that you really enjoy. It will become easy for others to serve you with what you enjoy.
7. Be positive when others don’t serve you or love you back
When others don’t reciprocate, you won’t get upset if you are practicing the 6 principles above. Take a step back. Serve and love yourself first. When you are happy, go out again and see who is in the best place and time to receive your service and love.
8. Appreciate when you receive service and love
It is ok if you don’t remember all the other points above. As long as you remember this one. Without begging for love, just look for evidence that you are already receiving love. Once you identify it, show your gratitude. Let the other’s know that you are so happy to be bathed in love.