It is usually not a lack of not knowing what to do.
In our logical mind, we know exactly those things would be good for us to start doing, such as:
- getting more exercise
- finishing the project we’ve been procrastinating on
- learn to better manage our finances
And things we should stop doing, such as:
- having negative emotional outburst to people that are closest to us
- being addicted to work, eating, drinking, gaming
- falling for and staying in relationships with those who make us feel unappreciated, neglected or betrayed
Why logical thinking often does not lead to successful actions?
Or sometimes, we are attracted to the ”quick fixes” that we know are not going to be sustainable:
- Pills or surgery to lose weight or gain muscles
- Programs that similar to ”12 words” to make anyone fall in love with you
- Gamble in ”hot commodities” that will give us a big return in short amount of time
And then we fail. We beat ourselves up. We lose all the motivation to try again. We feel that we are unworthy as something is fundamentally wrong with us.
There is a good news. And a not so good news.
The good news is:
It is not your fault! Our logical mind alone does not motivate to start and stop doing everything that we need to do in life. Our emotions and our beliefs are what really matters. Most of us are wounded emotionally and spiritually in our childhood or early adulthood. It is possible to heal and restore emotions and spirit so our logic and actions can follow.
The not so good news is:
Is it not a quick fix. Nothing good in life is a quick fix. We need to have the awareness of what exactly went wrong, the courage to stand up for our inner children and the hard work to champion them back to the wonderful being.
This quiz is designed based on the Child development theories. And can be the first step to gain understanding of our early development.
It is essential to know that no matter how well our early years caretakers tried, there are usually some unfulfilled childhood needs. Our inner child can also be easily wounded in schools, by the culture we were raised in and other traumatic event outside our families.
When we have unmet needs, unfinished business from our childhood causes the lost of our real identity to be covered with toxic shame to feel that we are not good enough.
It leads to self-sabotage and age regression in adulthood. We call it the wounded inner child.
In this test. You will find out in which of the 4 key development ages you were wounded the most after you have done the test.
There will be follow up content to your email if you would like to start working on reclaiming and championing your inner child.
To do the test, notice how you feel about each question without over-analyzing. Select what feels right for you.